Saturday, September 29, 2012
Facebook, college, and privacy.
I asked my college freshman to block all her adult family members, including me, from seeing any of her Facebook pictures.
Because I feel as though she is entitled to her privacy even if she doesn't think it matters.
As much as it KILLS me not to see what is going on, how happy she is, who her friends are, and what she is up to- I think it is necessary.
You see, although she believes she has nothing to hide...
I know better.
Not only should she worry about how coaches interpret or view what she believes are innocent pics and fun times or what future employers think of her college years, unfortunately she has to worry about being judged and gossiped about by certain family members.
And she doesn't deserve that.
And although I am not judging her when I see her pics on face book?
I thought about it.
When I went to college I was able to learn and grow. Make mistakes. Get crazy.
I had no one worried.
I had no one concerned.
I didn't have phone calls asking me questions about my whereabouts on school nights... ( I only called her once!)
Instead I learned the hard way, the BEST way- from my mistakes.
I want her to have her college life without intervention from me AND I certainly don't want her judged, especially when she has done nothing wrong.
For the record?
When I did tell her that she had been gossiped about by family members because of some of her pics on Facebook and asked her to block folks- she was honestly surprised and hurt that anyone would see anything negative in any of her pics.
And I agree. But I reminded her that she can't control other people. And by keeping her life private on Facebook she CAN control what people see.
How do you feel about privacy on Facebook?